Art of Confidence

Understand this, “Confidence is self gained, not god given.” People are not born with self-confidence, we build it upon a long process called life experiences - by broadening our mind and filling it with all the goodness that we are.  The situations we experience, the things we do and the people we meet may affect us, but, ultimately, it is up to us how we assess ourselves. Everyone craves for self-confidence. It is a positive belief that makes us feel great about ourselves. So, how do we get the confidence we need?

My answer is simple – “find something that you like about yourself (or you think you’re capable at), accept its goodness and transcend”. If you can’t seem to think of any, be open-minded and delve into new things! I once advised a friend to explore into different stuffs, and he denied of having any interest in attempting. I scoffed at his “effort” to gain self confidence, but his thinking did pose to me an egg-or-chicken question. Without self confidence, he can’t seem to accomplish anything. On the other hand, if he does nothing, chances of him gaining confidence through self-reflection will be really low. It is a vicious cycle and we have to BREAK it! One can always do something, no matter how miniscule it is. So, start something - anything! In fact, it doesn’t matter which (the egg or the chicken) should come first. If you have an egg, hatch a chicken! If you have a chicken, then hatch an egg!

Nobody said gaining confidence is easy. I used to have (and still have a little) low self-esteem. The self-confidence I have now did not happen overnight and certainly did not transpire out of the blue! In the past, I was skeptical, about EVERYTHING! I wouldn’t believe in anyone, not even myself. I scorned when people praised me. It was simply daunting to believe that I was decent at anything. Most of the time, I hated myself in the mirror. It went really depressing for a moment, until I decided that if I don’t like what I see, I have to change it. So, I started making an effort to look attractive. It took 7 long years to finally graduate into the person I am now (and still growing). My journey has not ended, but I made my first steps. I have grown to accept myself and the way I look.

I believe that the value of an image should solely be determined by us. If you want to shine, make the first move by getting something that will look great on you and represents who you are. If you don’t know how to pick up something fine, you can always ask the help of your fashionable friends. If you don’t have such friends, then do homework - study fashion magazines and trusty blogs such as mines (shameless advertising). Pick out things that you like with the tips you learnt from these articles. Above all, please wear them out!! Start with your friends, and if you get compliments, take it further into the public! If they say no, ask them why and make a reasonable change.  My first advice would be to put practicality in your style.  For example, coats and sweaters won’t last a minute under the outdoor heat. 

Note: You might also want to clean up your looks – neat hairdo, pristine skin, fitting bod and a dazzling white smile.

These are some of my thoughts on being confident in your life and your appearance. Allow me to end the article with a brilliant quote -”Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. - Dale Carnegie”

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